It’s important to understand that it doesn’t always look horrible day after day. There are times when it’s like a bed of roses. You are at the tip top of your happiness peak and you wouldn’t want to be anywhere else. He’s nice and sweet to you, thoughtful, apologizes for once and promises to DO better, BE better, takes accountability FOR ONCE, listens to you FOR ONCE, for the first time in a long time you feel heard and seen. Several days after, weeks, if you are real lucky maybe even months go by and things are going really well. Until they AREN’T anymore. See it’s all a game. To HOOK you back in again so you can be used to help make their life more convenient. They aren’t really doing it for YOU. Oh no, it’s still very much for THEIR benefit. They can only keep the facade going for so long that’s why they break and eventually start showing their true colors again. The monster that appears this time may even come out worse than it ever has before. So strap in because you are in for a never ending ride on this emotional roller coaster from hell if you don’t get out while you can. It’s not going to get better unfortunately. It’s just going to repeat and repeat. A person has to WANT to change and WANT to put in the work to be a better partner and person. A narcissist is so wrapped up in themselves that they’ll never see anything wrong with what they are putting you through. So save yourself. Life is too short!